Kinky Q & A (January 14, 2015)

Dear Kinkster, Is it true that men are typically Doms and women are submissives? I’m trying to identify my own style of sexual activity/role and want to make sure I get it right. Thanks, Dunno Dear Dunno, There is no “true” or “right/wrong” in the BDSM lifestyle, it’s a very personal observation of our individuality/relationship/sexual play style and however you identify is exactly right for you. Try not to get caught up in the names or what you think the societal norms are, instead look at how you express your sexuality instead and use that as a basis. You also don’t HAVE to identify as anything in particular until you know for sure so as not to confuse others and/or put pressure on yourself to be someone you’re not.