Why Rope?
I have been asked many times… Why rope? Rope takes so long to
learn, it takes so long to tie someone… Why rope?
Photo credit: Shadow-girl
I never really knew how to answer that. I knew I was drawn to it, I knew I loved doing it but I was so deep in the trees I think that I could not make sense of the forest to explain it.
I have been attracted to images of bondage and restraint for as long
as I can remember. I think in general people get how restraint and the power of the physical control that goes with it can be erotic. There are so many easier and quicker ways to restrain, though, if restraint is the goal. Rope is a skill, a skill that requires a significant investment in time and energy to learn to do well and safely. If the goal is just to bind someone for the purpose of doing some other form of play on them while they are bound, for sure, rope is not the
easiest way to go about that.
Clearly, there is something else going on with all us rope people
spending hours doing what it is that we do.
Rope bondage has many aspects to it. Websites like FetLife are
extremely visual, and movies and TV featuring bondage are total eye
candy for people who are into restraint as a kink. Rope bondage is an
art form. The body I am tying is my canvas and I am creating visual
human art on it with my rope. I love doing that and yes: sometimes I
do get over-fixated on how the rope looks, but that is not why I do it.
Between those people tying each other, rope can be very connective.
Photo credit: Laura Jung – Original – CC license
When I tie, it is an intimate thing for me, I feel very close and connected to the person that I am tying. I hope that the person that I am tying is getting something similar going on for them as well…
So, here we have the heart of it, the real reason why I do rope bondage.
Rope bondage is sensation play.
Yup, there it is. That is why I take so long to tie and untie and
retie and retie and untie. Why I tie gentle and rough, fast and slow,
dragging the rope over the skin as I go. The rope becomes an extension
of my hands on the body until I untie it. The sensations of being tied
is additive, building into the connection between me and who I am
tying.
The rope may be going on her skin, but my goal is to get inside her
head. Where we go together with rope can be erotic, intimate and
revealing.
It is a shared journey into sensation. Together. With rope.
Always a tricky question. And people are always suprised when I tell them that for me it is not a sexual or erotic thing. Instead I find the trust necessary to be deeply flattering, the connection to be a sweet middle ground between “friends” and “lovers”, and the expression to be exquisite. This combination of qualities is what has created a passion out of such a practice.
The idea of the model being like a canvas is something I get very much here, where the rope may be a brush. The practice is not inherantly erotic or sexual, just as a painting is what you put on the canvas.